Life can be way complicated sometime; but it can also be really simple. That depends on the day too. I never thought that I would get out of touch with the simple things in life. I have though, You just got to learn to let go and LIVE! I guess I've let what really matters get past me and forgot how to just live. Yes, I am single and thats ok with me for now. Think maybe I have spent too much time looking for that special someone to comeinto my life that I've forgotten how to just have a life. My Mom and My Dad told me that he will walk into my life when I least expect it while Im living my life; that being said I ran across a list of 60 ways that will make life simple again:
Don’t try to read other people’s minds. Don’t make other people try to read yours. Communicate.
Be polite, but don’t try to be friends with everyone around you. Instead, spend time nurturing your relationships with the people who matter most to you.
Your health is your life, keep up with it. Get an annual physical check-up.
Live below your means. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. Always sleep on big purchases. Create a budget and savings plan and stick to both of them.
Get enough sleep every night. An exhausted mind is rarely productive.
Get up 30 minutes earlier so you don’t have to rush around like a mad man. That 30 minutes will help you avoid speeding tickets, tardiness, and other unnecessary headaches.
Get off your high horse, talk it out, shake hands or hug, and move on.
Don’t waste your time on jealously. The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
Surround yourself with people who fill your gaps. Let them do the stuff they’re better at so you can do the stuff you’re better at.
Organize your living space and working space. Get rid of stuff you don’t use.
Ask someone if you aren’t sure.
Spend a little time now learning a time-saving trick or shortcut that you can use over and over again in the future.
Don’t try to please everyone. Just do what you know is right.
Don’t drink alcohol or consume recreational drugs when you’re mad or sad. Take a jog instead.
Be sure to pay your bills on time.
Fill up your gas tank on the way home, not in the morning when you’re in a hurry.
Use technology to automate tasks.
Handle important two-minute tasks immediately.
Relocate closer to your place of employment.
Don’t steal.
Always be honest with yourself and others.
Say “I love you” to your loved ones as often as possible.
Single-task. Do one thing at a time and give it all you got.
Finish one project before you start another.
Be yourself.
When traveling, pack light. Don’t bring it unless you absolutely must.
Clean up after yourself. Don’t put it off until later.
Learn to cook, and cook.
Make a weekly (healthy) menu, and shop for only the items you need.
Consider buying and cooking food in bulk. If you make a large portion of something on Sunday, you can eat leftovers several times during the week without spending more time cooking.
Stay out of other people’s drama. And don’t needlessly create your own.
Buy things with cash.
Maintain your car, home, and other personal belongings you rely on.
Smile often, even to complete strangers.
If you hate doing it, stop it.
Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother.
Apologize when you should.
Write things down.
Be curious. Don’t be scared to learn something new.
Explore new ideas and opportunities often.
Don’t be shy. Network with people. Meet new people.
Don’t worry too much about what other people think about you.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven, and likeminded.
Don’t text and drive. Don’t drink and drive.
Drink water when you’re thirsty.
Don’t eat when you’re bored. Eat when you’re hungry.
Exercise every day. Simply take a long, relaxing walk or commit 30 minutes to an at-home exercise program like the P90X workout.
Let go of things you can’t change. Concentrate on things you can.
Find hard work you actually enjoy doing.
Realize that the harder you work, the luckier you will become.
Follow your heart. Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams and desires.
Set priorities for yourself and act accordingly.
Take it slow and add up all your small victories.
However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Accept this simple fact.
Excel at what you do. Otherwise you’ll just frustrate yourself.
Mature, but don’t grow up too fast.
Realize that you’re never quite as right as you think you are.
Build something or do something that makes you proud.
Make mistakes, learn from them, laugh about them, and move along.
Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being paralyzed. Stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?
I stumbled upon this amazing song that just says it all. I turned on the radio in my car and it was on and I was listening to the lyrics and it just spoke to me. Its called A Little Bit Stronger by Sara Evans.
Woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain
But I brushed my teeth anyway
I got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face
I got a little bit stronger
Riding in the car to work and I'm trying to ignore the hurt
So I turned on the radio, stupid song made me think of you
I listened to it for minute but I changed it
I'm getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger
And I'm done hoping that we could work it out
I'm done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I'm done thinking that you could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same
But I'm telling myself I'll be okay
Even on my weakest days
I get a little bit stronger
Doesn't happen overnight but you turn around
And a month's gone by and you realize you haven't cried
I'm not giving you a hour or a second or another minute longer
I'm busy getting stronger
And I'm done hoping that we can work it out
I'm done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I'm done thinking, that you could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same
But I'm telling myself I'll be okay
Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger
I get a little bit stronger
Getting along without you, baby
I'm better off without you, baby
How does it feel without me, baby?
I'm getting stronger without you, baby
And I'm done hoping we could work it out
I'm done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I'm done thinking that you could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same
But I'm telling myself I'll be okay
Even on my weakest days
I get a little bit stronger
I get a little bit stronger
Just a little bit stronger
A little bit, a little bit, a little bit stronger
I get a little bit stronger
Today started out like any other mundane day. Woke up, Ran, showered, drank some coffee, filled up my gallon of water, went to work, blah...blah...blah...
But it wasnt an ordinary day. I finally let it all out and vented about somethings that have been eating away at my mind for the part 3 weeks with an amazing friend from Jersey. Felt so good to tell her how I felt about the whole situation and how the situation had made me feel. She didnt judge me at all and it was refreshing to hear her thoughts instead of just my own. Maybe she was right too, maybe the situation is something that is just normal. Either way, I am super stoked to have that off my chest and hear from someone else. Thank you...You know who you are :)
Today I was also not nervous at all to go in front of the judge at court. Normally, I am all nervous as hell and I choke when I get on the stand to tell how the case is going; Not today!! I rocked that Bitch!! I think the whole situation really did make me Stronger! Confident! and I know what I want in my life now!
Got woken up early this morning by my Daddy and my Abuelo! What a Nice way to start my day. My Daddy wanted to borrow my Nikon DSLR 800x camera to take photos of his family this weekend at his uncles or my Great Uncle's 95th birthday. Of Coarse you can use my camera Daddy!! I got this camera 3 years ago for Christmas and its been nothing but fantastic! I took a forensic photography class in college and took what I learned there to take some professional photos. Mostly stills, and most at cemeterys. There was just something about the calmness there that is aestheticly pleasing.
Anyway, after my Daddy drove off, I hit the road and ran 3.5 miles in roughly 24 minutes. That brings me up to 31 miles this week. It's a great hobby and it keeps me healthy. It all started about 3 years ago. I was unhappy with the way I had let myself go and had put on some weight.
This used to be me...all slow and sluggish!
Now I can run a mile and a half in under 13 minutes!! I started out running that in 24 minutes, now that is my 3 mile time...Ive come a long way! I enjoy to run, its a great stress reliever for me and its gotten me through some of my lowest points in life. It's a great catharsis for me. Last year, my brother gave me what is called P90X...AMAZING program. I mixed that in with my running and last summer I lost 25 pounds in 3 months. I finish the program and fell off the wagon for the holidays in 2010. Now, I have decided that in order to be really happy. There are two things that I need to do to be completely happy and to feel confident with the SINGLE life I am making for myself.
1. Work on my relationship with MYSELF!!
ME!! Got me some new Spectacles too...Gotta take care of this Brown eyed girl myself!
I gotta feel comfortable with the person I am before I can shar a life with another. So that means, to me, take care of my body. There are many ways to do this. Eat right, Exercise often, and take care of the body I've been given. That means mentally, emotionally, socially, and actively. Strive for that well being!!
Now for numero dos....
2. Work on my relationship with my money.
If only I did have a money tree, I wouldnt have to work on my relationship with my money
Money, whether we all want to believe it or not, does make the world go round. Since I started my adoption job I havent really saved much. Recently, I was introduced to a lady named Suze Orman. Smart Lady, especially with money! I read her book and realized Ive been pretty reckless in saving for my future. Let's face it, I'm single and I have no man to help me save for my future. So I had to educate myself. I learned about savings accounts and IRA's RothIRA's, my retirement fund, CD's...I decided which one I wanted and what would be right for me. I chose to open a RothIRA. This was I cant touch my money for a few years. Its a good thing too :) I am about through payingoff all of my credit cards and have decided to only keep one for when I travel for work. So far, I am on the right path to making my SINGLE life, a good one for me.
So work on my relationships with me and my money. Letting go of looking for Love and hopefully it will find me. I am well on my way to creating a great life for myself...and Jasper... Who needs a man for now, someday he will come but til then its all about taking care of me and my future!!!
In January I started a new job, I was hired as an Adoption Specialist. I dont think I could have been blessed with such a rewarding job than this one. Lemme start from the beginning, in November of 2009 I was hired as a Child Protective Services Specialist as a Temporary Managing Conservator for kids that had been removed from their home. I never really like that job. What it entailed was this...dealing with Bitchy parents and making the best decision for their child because I had them in "my" care or the State of Texas did. Regardless, I was their "parent" for lack of a better word, while their biological parents worked services to prove to the State that they deserved them back. It was an emotionally stressfull position. I stuck it out for a year for the kids on my caseload. Throughout the year that I was there I got 6 terminations. A termination is where I terminated parental rights on biological parents because I felt it was in the best interest of their children. Talk about being hated!? I had enough of that job and was told that adoption had an opening and I jumped on that application, scored the interview, and made it my bitch!! A month later, I took a drug screen...and didnt pass! ha ha, I kid!! I passed and landed the job.
Here's where the reward come into play:
Let me explain my position, its quite simple. Say, I was still in my old position and I got one of those terminations. Well, what happens to the kid, yep. They go to adoptions. In adoptions, its my job to find that child a new "forever family". I get to know the child and ask them what they want in a family and a home. I take all of what they say and make a profile for the child. This profile is placed on a website, Texas TARE, and people from all over the country inquire about that child. Thats when the fun part starts! I'm all excited to see that all of the people are inquiring about this one child and I get what are called home studies. A home study is where someone comes into your home and literally studies your home, your family, your job, your past, your sex life, your finances...and they make a nice report about all of this and its sent to me to read for the child that the family inquired about on that website. I get hundreds and it takes me a long time to read through them. Although a few may sound really good, I believe that it is only fair to read them all and give everyone a chance. This process is called the "Selection" Process. Once I find the perfect family for the child I call them and thats rewarding! Once I called the prospective adoptive Father and he was so thrilled that his family was selected, he stated that he had to sit down and that he was so happy that he was going to be a father...talk about touching!! Another time, the adoptive Mother stated that the foster child had told her that she was excited to be apart of their family and that her case worker (ME) was her hero for finding a family for her.
BROUGHT A TEAR TO MY EYE!!!
Today, I had the oppertunity to see an adoptive family meet the child. From TARE to meeting...its a very rewarding job. When I left the child he gave me a hug, I asked if he felt safe and he stated he liked the family and thanked me. I hugged that little guy so hard and walked him back to the family. As I was leaving, I put my hand out to the adoptive father, he took my hand and pulled me in for a hug. He stated that he was thankful that I gave him the oppertunity to be parents. I smiled. When I put my hand out to shake the adoptive Mother, she hugged me to and stated that I was family now. Ive only just begun my job and I Love it! Nothing makes life more rewarding knowing that I have made a HUGE difference in a child's life.
This is my first post, I decided to start a blog and document my life to the world. Its been a rough Month of March for me thus far...and its only the 11th of the month. I am not your typical 24 year old, this I know many of my friends can atest to. At 23, I finished college and moved back home with my parents. It took my roughly 9 months to find a good job. I mean a GOOD job. I had entered the world was decided to buy a house. I had it in my head that I would much rather put my money towards something rather than waste it away on frivalous rent. Not sure if it was a good plan, but I did it. I bought my first house at the age of 23. I had gumption! Ive lived in my house for over a year now and its been great; I mean for awhile. I am now 24 and my 25th birthday will soon creep up on me. Like I said Ive accomplished alot for your not so average 24 year old.
My point now, I get hit at least once a day with a reminder of my single life. Ive done the dating websites, and nothing has come from them. I'm not too good at the dating scene and I can be kind of an introvert when I wanna be. Regardless, I am here to say that I have plans for me. I need to getmy relationship with myself in order and the relationship with my Money in check ( ahem, Thank You Suze Orman) before I am even ready to share it with someone else. My Mother told me that Ive created something good for myself and she's proud for the accomplishments Ive made in my short life. I mean come on, what 24 year old can say that they own their own home...in fact, what 24 year old WOMAN can say that. I CAN! I think this is just the beginning. I wanna blog about my life...my SINGLE, LOVIN' and LIVIN' Life :) This is me, There is no other Aimee, like me. And Guys, You dont know what a great catch I really am, but dont think Im easy cause not just any guy can have me. So here we go, Welcome to my world people...It should be good.
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